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Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Surgery = Gratitude for the Simple Things

Five days ago, I had surgery for my 2 hernias and muscle / skin damage, etc, etc (my stomach was pretty messed up from my last couple pregnancies!!)  It was a somewhat serious procedure, and it looks like I'm gonna have some crazy scars.... hopefully it will look okay in the end!
Anyway, recovering from surgery SUCKS!!  It put me totally out of commission, so that I need someone around to help me 24/7!  I was actually quite surprised at how terrible I felt the first few days - I couldn't get in and out of bed by myself, could barely walk, couldn't even go to the bathroom by myself!  I have a drainage tube and bag coming out of me that is painful and driving me crazy, and my large incision is over my rib cage which makes it really hard to get a good breath in - it feels like my lungs are collapsing on me.  My whole stomach is super sore and tight and I can't even sit up or stand up straight.  Things are improving a bit day by day, but man, this has been a real trial of my patience.  I have felt very overwhelmed on numerous occasions, and Lee had to try to calm me down and help me to put it in perspective.  It feels like I will never feel good again, but Lee keeps reminding me of the improvements I'm making and that I WILL feel good soon! But through it all so far, I have really learned to rely on others to help me and I have felt great appreciation for all of the acts of love I have seen!!  Of course, Lee has been amazing, he has been trying to be home as much as he can to work from home and take care of the kids at the same time.  He has waited on me hand and foot, helped prop me up with pillows, get in and out of bed, fill up ice bags, get my water and medications, bring me food, and of course has become Super Dad with the kids.  Scarlett is still a huge handful, and I have felt so bad seeing him struggle to keep her out of the toilets and change her diapers over and over while she puts up a big fuss, and to get all the kids ready for school, church, and bed by himself.  He has really stepped up and I am so appreciative of him and his efforts.  He really would do anything for me.  I am especially grateful for his attitude through it all.  He remains positive and and has a way of helping me to be calm and happier, even through all my crazy and illogical thoughts and freak outs!
And then there is my wonderful mother - I couldn't ask for a better Mom in these types of situations - she is the definition of "service"!  She has come over every week day to help out - she watches the kids when Lee is gone, she makes meals, picks up groceries, does laundry, makes the house look cleaner than it ever does, and even manages to get the kids to clean up better after themselves, especially their clothes!  Something I've been working on for years, and she does it better than I can in one day!  She has even been cleaning my disgustingly dusty blinds which, in all honesty, I have barely ever done in the whole 5 years I've lived in this house!  She even washed my hair for me yesterday since I'm still not allowed to go in the shower - it felt amazing! She is always asking what else she can to help, and would be here in a heartbeat if she found out she was needed.  I know she has given up a lot of time to be here and I am so grateful for her and her willingness.  I feel bad though that she has had to lift Scarlett so much since she has a bad back... she really has been amazing though.
And of course, I have also been completely touched by all of the other friends and family that have reached out and helped me in one way or another!  We have had a bunch of meals brought and scheduled to be brought, friends have been driving my kids to school, dance lessons, etc, and many people have offered to help out with kids or whatever way they could.  Although I don't like accepting Service, I have definitely needed it more than at any other time in my life, and it makes me feel so loved that so many people care.  When I'm feeling better I definitely want to make a better effort to serve others more, and I would love to repay all the help that I have received!
I have also had lots of time to reflect on all the simple things that we take for granted.  Like being able to take a shower, pick things up off the floor, and to sleep comfortably in any position and with only ONE pillow instead of 500!  Like being able to run, exercise, play with my kids and especially to hold my sweet crazy baby!!  You'd think I'd be happy to relax and have a break from the kids, but now I realize how much I enjoy being a part of their lives. Scarlett doesn't come to me much anymore - I think she's learned that I wont pick her up and has given up hope, and it makes me sad.  And the other kids ask me every day if I'm better yet, and they have made me notes and pictures and brought me things to help me feel better.  Very sweet.
Well, I think that's enough venting and expressing my feelings for now!!

Monday, September 17, 2012

Slip N Slide!

My sister Jocelyn and her hubby somehow came up with this great idea to build a massive Slip N Slide on the hill behind their house with some big tarps - super cool!  They invited all the family over for a BBQ and to play on their cool invention last weekend, and it was a lot of fun!!  It turned out to be a surprisingly hot day for September, and the kids had a blast sliding down in it all different positions!  The Dads had fun going down it too, and even more so, throwing and spinning the kids down it as fast as they could!  Lee even sent little Scarlett down it - one time a little too fast and she kinda rolled - but the majority of the time she actually really seemed to like it!  It also formed a little pool at the bottom that she quite liked too!  The boys also got quite a good game of football going - it was cute to see Mason right in there playing along - they even let him score a touchdown once!  Oh yeah, and Mason decided he wanted to eat a bug like Dakota had to earn $1... sooo.... Jeff found this massive grasshopper and Mason worked hard at chewing that nasty thing, and eventually got it swallowed! I think I got some good action shots of it all that I wanted to share! (And some of the kids just looking cute!)







 
 


We also did a Food Drive for our ward that same morning, and it was a wonderful experience for the kids.  We had to deliver bags to a bunch of door handles, and I have never seen my kids work so hard - they were  all running as fast as their little bodies could go to try to get as many as they could before one the other ones got to them!  They just kept running to me for more bags and were disappointed when we were already done after only 1/2 hour!  They thought it was neat to pick up all the food for the poor people too - and Grandpa happened to be working at the drop-off station and thought it would be fun to put my kids in the big food boxes! ha ha!

Back to School

On Sept. 4, my kiddies went back to school!  Mason in grade 3, and Dakota in grade 2!  Griffin's still in preschool, but now has it 3 days a week instead of 2 - he REALLY was wishing he could go to Mason and Kota's school, and he especially wants to be in grade 1, but he is happy to go to preschool with his best buddy Jack!  Mason and Dakota were pretty nervous, but excited - Lee was able to give them all blessings the night before, so that was a nice reassurance for them.  I was pretty happy with their teachers and classes overall, but in all honesty, I was hoping for a few more of Mason's friends to be in his class, and I was pretty sad that Dakota's best friend Laura would not be in her class this year for the first time!  Those two have been pretty tight, so we'll have to do our best to have playdates to keep them together!!  It is strange to have  a much quieter house again now, and Griffin especially was at a loss of "what he can do"!  It's nice to be back in routine though - Dakota is in Dance, piano and basketball will be starting, and Mason has piano, Cubs, and basketball.  I kinda ran out of time for getting cute back to school photos, so here's my one lame picture that I took right in front of the school as we rushed to get there on time, and that's all I got!

Sunday, September 2, 2012

Enjoying our last few days of Summer!

I can't believe Summer is coming to a close and the kids will be back to school in a couple days!  I can't decide if I'm happy about it - the kids are definitely starting to fight alot and get on each other's nerves, so I think some space will be good, or sad - it will be tough to get back in full routine with reading, extracurricular activities, making lunches, etc!  And we've had so much fun enjoying the wonderful weather.  Oh well, it will be good.  We were lucky enough to get to go to Calaway Park this week as a family - well, a family minus one - Melanie was wonderful enough to babysit our biggest handful, Scarlett, so that we could actually enjoy all the rides and stuff with the kids!  It was our first time going there as a family, and we had a blast!  The kids enjoyed all the rides, and Lee and I did too, until our stomachs started to feel a little queasy... I guess our bodies aren't quite what they used to be!  But we went on all the good ones, watched a bit of a magic show, and got some popcorn and mini donuts - lunch for champions!  It was great, we'll have to go back again next year for sure!  I got a few pics, but not very many...
 
 We also went to Chaparral Lake again this week, and the splash park in Cranston, and rode bikes and played around our house with the neighborhood kids!  Good week.
  On a side note, I always forget to write about the cute things my kids say, so while I'm remembering a funny thing Dakota said last week, I will write it down!  So we were sitting down and this man walks by us with a whole bunch of tattoos!  Dakota says, "Wow, that's a lot of tattoos, I would never want all those tattoos!!  One or two, maybe, but not that many!"  I kinda laughed and said, "Really, you would like one or two?"  Then I gave her the whole speech about her body being a temple and stuff.  She seemed kind of embarassed that she had wanted one, it was cute.  And then later in the week, she found some rub on tattoos in our house and said she wasn't sure if she should use them since her body was a temple!  So cute!  I told her temporary ones were fine! (:  What a sweet heart!
  Oh yeah, and in the same week, that sweet little girl also ate a worm!! A bug juicy earthworm!  Nasty!!  She found it and Lee kinda jokingly asked her if she was going to eat it, and she was definitely thinking hard about it, so I said I'd give her a dollar if she did!  Well, that helped her make up her mind and she actually did it!  Said it tasted like mushrooms! (Which she hates!)  Here's the video:
In fact, while I'm posting, I might as well post the video of the time she ate a grasshopper last Summer!  That one's pretty funny! She's got quite a list of bugs in her repertoire now!  How she got so brave, I will never know!  I wont even touch the things she eats!!


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